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​​​​​The Good Therapy 

Elvita Kondili, Counselor, Life Coach, therapist in Charlotte mindfulness coach

5200 Park Rd Suite 200-3  Charlotte, NC 28209  704-776-0327

My experience and style 

 

For the past 14 years, I have had the privilege to walk side by side countless individuals on their journey to self-discovery, healing and transformation. I am very passionate about my work and consider it to be very meaningful and sacred. I graduated with a Masters degree in Mental Health Counseling in 2003 from the University of Massachusetts at Boston. I am currently a Doctoral Candidate in Counselor Education and Supervision at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte.

​​Why I do what I do. 


It is only fair you asked. There are many reasons of course, but the main one can be found in one story. When I was in college in Albania, I volunteered with UNICEF as a refugee relief worker during the Kosova-Serbia war. That experience taught me that through connection, compassion and kindness we can heal even the most painful wounds and overcome even the worst of wrong-doings.  In fact, when we feel connected, cared for, understood, supported and guided, we can find hope even in the darkest of despair. There is no greater purpose than to be there with someone in their pain, suffering, hope, joy, accomplishment. There is no greater meaning than this.  

I specialize in treating behavioral and substance addictions and a variety of mental health disorders such as depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress, and personality disorders. I also provide couple counseling regardless of marital status or sexual orientation. I have worked in a variety of clinical settings from inpatient hospitalization to outpatient mental health and substance abuse. For the past 7 years I have provided individual and couples counseling in private practice. 

I take a holistic approach to helping clients, encouraging them to develop and maintain healthy habits for their physical, mental, spiritual and relational well-being. I am originally from Albania and strongly believe that culture, society, family and relationships are important influences on mental health and overall happiness. My counseling style is warm, personable and genuine. My clients and peers have often commented on my authenticity and my ability to feel deep empathy and compassion. I am dedicated to serving and helping others, I believe in the power of the counseling relationship and the guidance that my expertise and knowledge can provide. ​

A word of encouragement 


        Many people are apprehensive about counseling but, really, there is nothing to it.  Sure, it is awkward to open up to a complete stranger but there is also something comforting about the fact that they won't judge you or share all your secrets with everyone else. Counseling provides an emotional safety that is hard to find in  day-to-day interactions.  We often ignore problems because we are taught to rely on ourselves alone. Or, our problems are too painful to face so we would rather ignore them. We would rather numb with drugs, alcohol, sex,  self-destructive habits, unhealthy relationships, unfulfilling jobs, money, work, the list goes on. Sometimes we blame others for our problems and this mentality keeps us stuck and helpless. Sometimes the solution is  right in front of us but we are overcome with fear and shame. We all want to be happy but we don’t always know how to make ourselves happy because we go about  it the wrong way. Sometimes we are too proud to admit we need help. No one is perfect. We all suffer. That’s our underlying condition.


      I myself have been in therapy many times before and have found immense benefits, even in times when I wasn't aware I needed help. The truth is, we all need help! We all need guidance. We can all use a mirror that reflects an objective view of us.  A therapist can be that for you. Our families and loved ones can't, especially when they are part of the problem. ​​